Thoughtful Thursday: What’s a Good Choice?
Are you caught in a cycle of indecision? What choice should you make and how will your story and travels impact your life down the road? We all struggle with the decision to either make travel a priority in our lives and hopefully make the right choice in all the decisions in our life.
This week’s Thoughtful Thursday equips you with the keys to making the right choice for YOU.
What control do you have over your life?
As much as you may want it, you don’t have 100% control over your life. In fact, control is an illusion. But what you do have is CHOICE and that’s awesome.
Our inner and outer choices influence our reality more than anything else. That’s why the choices you make are incredibly important! So what’s a “good” choice?
Let’s go for more than good, let’s go for the BEST kind of choice you can possibly make…
A SELF-HONORING CHOICE!
I’ve had to make some self-honoring choices lately in both my professional and personal life. It was challenging because I was concerned about the reactions of others, but the potential costs of betraying myself gave me the courage.
I want to share with you five keys to making self-honoring choices so that you can stay on track in terms of what is most important to you.
Key One: A self-honoring choice is one that is in alignment with your values like love, respect, trust, authentic self expression, etc. Self-honoring choices support your values; non self-honoring choices violate them. Making choices based on how you will be perceived by others, how someone else will respond, or what you think you should do may violate your values. This is no bueno!!! Check in and choose according to what’s most important to you.
Key Two: A self-honoring choice is NOT SELFISH. You can be for yourself without being against anyone else. Plus, selfish people aren’t concerned about whether their choices are selfish because they are too self-absorbed or self-centered to consider it! So just the fact that you are questioning being selfish is an indicator that you aren’t.
Key Three: A self-honoring choice does not include being responsible for other people’s feelings. You are not responsible for someone else’s reaction to a choice you make. I know this may sound crazy to you but this is the TRUTH. You are only responsible for communicating in an authentic, loving, honest way without going into blame, finger pointing, ultimatums, or expectations. How people respond is their responsibility, not yours!
Key Four: A self-honoring choice is often choosing not to make a choice! When someone asked something of us, we feel an immediate need to respond. It’s honoring to say, “I don’t know” or “I need time to think about that” or “Let me get back to you.” Just because a choice is put in front of you doesn’t mean you have to make a decision instantly. Give yourself time. Honor yourself by giving yourself time to check in and see what feels most congruent for you.
Key Five: A self-honoring choice is often: “No.” That’s a complete sentence. It’s not necessary to follow “no” with a huge justification and apology. You are not obligated to explain yourself. It’s enough to just say no if that’s your truth.
My encouragement to you is to make self-honoring choices in ALL aspects of your life . . . especially in those areas where it feels risky.
I understand it may be scary, but what’s even scarier is that making choices that violate your values because it builds resentment against yourself and others. Again, no bueno. It also perpetuates distrust and disconnection from your Higher Self. If you want to start trusting yourself more and co-creating the reality you desire, you’ve got to UPLEVEL to consistently making self-honoring choices.
Here’s to choosing YOU.