Henry David Thoreau once said, "Never look back unless you plan on going that way." It's nice to recognize the events in your life that have lead up until this point, but as a traveler, the biggest step is your first one forward - and it's better to keep exploring, experiencing, and forging new paths in your life than to get bogged down in what has already happened. Create new adventures! This week's Thoughtful Thursday explores the ways to "make your past, your past."
Guest Blog Post by Christine Hassler
Do you invest a lot of energy looking backwards? Has your past become the protagonist in the story of your life? Perhaps it is time to turn around and look at what is in front of you instead of belaboring over what is behind you. Many of us excel at shoulda, coulda, woulda thinking so much so that we end up stuck in remorse and regret. This makes it difficult to be accepting of the present and excited about where we are headed.
Another result of continuing to bring our past into our present is feelings of depression or lack of motivation. If you are experiencing this, it is time to do some more productive time traveling! Rather than being upset over the past and wishing it could be different, investigate it in service to releasing it. What did you learn? How did you grow? What were the hidden blessings? How can you move forward incorporating what you have learned? What can you commit to doing differently?
Use the answers to these questions to support you in letting go. Obsessing over past decisions and events creates heaviness inside making gaining forward momentum difficult. Be here now, look forward with enthusiasm, and when you do look behind you, do so with accepting and understanding eyes. It’s time to make your past your past and embrace this brand new day! And may the dreams of your past be the reality of your future.
“Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”- Wayne Dyer
“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.“- Raymond Lindquist
About the Author:
Christine Hassler left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about...but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. In 2005, she wrote the first guide book written exclusively for young women, entitled 20 Something 20 Everything. Christine’s second book, The 20 Something Manifesto written for men and women stems from her experience coaching twenty-something’s.
Today, she supports individuals as a Life Coach helping clients discover the answers to the questions: “Who Am I, What do I want, and How do I get it?” As a professional speaker, Christine leads seminars and workshops to audiences around the country. She has spoken to over 10,000 college students as well as to conferences and corporations about generational diversity. Christine has appeared as an expert on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style and PBS, as well as various local television and radio shows, speaking about life issues and “Expectation Hangovers®” – a phenomenon she identified and trademarked.
Christine is the spokesperson for Zync from American Express and the key resource for their Quarterlife Program which empowers young people to take control of their finances. She also created a life balance curriculum for the Leadership Institute and is a member of Northwestern University’s Council of 100. www.christinehassler.com