Thoughtful Thursday: How Do I Find My Passion?
What’s your passion, and how do you find out? This past week, many of our Contiki fans submitted evidence of their passion for travel, through write-ups and photos on our Love Travel blog giveaway. This week, Christine Hassler’s guest post tackles how to discover what you love to do.
Guest blog post by Christine Hassler
The popular career advice given out today to “follow your passion, and you will be happy and successful” is very vague and somewhat misleading. Most twenty somethings have not done enough to discover what they love to do. And the concept that each of us is born with a fire burning in our bellies for a particular career has spread like a bad flu. True, some individuals have known from a young age what they love but this is not the norm.
Discovering your passion is an evolutionary and unique process. Most of us assume passion arrives like a thunderbolt of inspiration, instantly spreading wonderfully warm feelings and clarity about what we should do with our life. But do you know what the word “passion” truly means? Webster’s defines “passion” as “powerful feeling” and “great enthusiasm.” Further definitions include “emotions as distinguished from reason,” “suffering,” and “anger and rage.” Passion is not logical; it does not express itself in tidy, left-brain career steps. Nor is passion easy. The road to passion or “great enthusiasm” may require some “suffering.” You may experience “anger and rage” and “emotions distinguished from reason” to reach the “powerful feeling” of discovering passionate work.
Living out all aspects of the definition of passion was absolutely true for me. I did not discover what I enjoy doing until my late twenties, and I was not able to make a full-time career out of it until almost thirty. Along the way, I encountered frustration, disappointment, jobs I hated, dead-end career paths, and having to do things I didn’t really want to. The most valuable thing that I learned is that passion is a journey. It is not something that you can find, it is a discovery process – it cannot be planned. Passion emerges from of a myriad of experiences, a commitment to do self-investigation and exploration, and a willingness to risk not adhering to societal expectations.
And just being passionate about something is not a formula for fast success, and if you try to rise too fast, you might miss important lessons along the way. Having passion doesn’t keep us from experiencing pit stops in our career: sacrifices, fear, doubt, confusion, lack of money, and jobs we don’t like. Don’t let being stuck in one of these pit stops make you think you lack passion! Remember, passion is more a way of being than a destination, and it does not create satisfaction or ideal employment all by itself.
Don’t reserve living a passionate life for 9 to 5 Monday through Friday. As long as your job affords you an acceptable quality of life, what is wrong with that? Passion is a matter of perspective and can be created in many different aspects of our lives. It’s even possible to approach a “mundane” job with even more enthusiasm. It’s important that you don’t underestimate the work you do, despite how “passionless” it can feel at times. Avoid confusing passion for a career with your purpose in life.
So relax. Enjoy where you are. I know there are things in your life that you love and that you love doing. Focus on those rather than obsessing about what you think you are missing. Look for new experiences to embark on, new people to meet, and new challenges to explore. Notice how you feel and what you are thinking when you do certain things. Remember, discovering your passion is an self-instigated exploratory process – there is no manual. Allow yourself some time and be open to the possibility that your passion will find you rather than you having to find it.
About the Author:
Christine Hassler left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about.. but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. In 2005, she wrote the first guide book written exclusively for young women, entitled 20 Something 20 Everything. Christine’s second book, The 20 Something Manifesto written for men and women stems from her experience coaching twenty-something’s.
Today, she supports individuals as a Life Coach helping clients discover the answers to the questions: “Who Am I, What do I want, and How do I get it?” As a professional speaker, Christine leads seminars and workshops to audiences around the country. She has spoken to over 10,000 college students as well as to conferences and corporations about generational diversity. Christine has appeared as an expert on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style and PBS, as well as various local television and radio shows, speaking about life issues and “Expectation Hangovers®” – a phenomenon she identified and trademarked.
Christine is the spokesperson for Zync from American Express and the key resource for their Quarterlife Program which empowers young people to take control of their finances. She also created a life balance curriculum for the Leadership Institute and is a member of Northwestern University’s Council of 100. Www.christinehassler.com